I recently emailed this to friends, family and survivors' lists about a local molester being arrested.
I recently emailed this to survivor's list cuz they could relate to my trepidation about getting in touch with a former high school classmate to check out my flimsy memories.
03/24/02 I recently had an uncomfortable time with my son.
04/08/02 I was asked to perform at The Forgiveness Project.
A quote from the Jewish Talmud speaks about when you save yourself, it is as tho you are saving the whole world. Here's another story:
"This was one of those times when the parent was busy with something that needed to be done and the child was bored and wanted some attention. The parent needed to concentrate and was desperate to find something to distract the child for a little while so that the parent could get done with what needed to be done and could then give the child some attention. In glancing around, the parent noticed a large fold out map of the world from a magazine. The parent took the map of the world and cut it up into pieces and gave it to the child along with some scotch tape and said, 'Here honey, why don't you see how quickly you can put this map of the world together.'
The child liked this idea and quickly went to work. The parent was sure that this little ploy had brought some valuable time to get finished with the project at hand. But in only a very few minutes the child called out that the map was all put together. The parent could not believe it and went over to where the child was sitting on the floor and was astounded to see the map all put together.
'How did you do that so fast?!?' The parent asked.
The child, looking a little sheepish, said, 'Well, I kinda cheated a little. On the other side of the map of the world was the picture of a person. I just put the person together and the world came together all by itself.'"
Work for World Peace: Heal Your Inner Child
"How can you tell if you are experiencing serenity or are in denial?"
I said, 'It doesn't matter. If you feel good enjoy it. If you are in denial - more will be revealed.'" Robert
The Signals of Denial from Protecting the Gift.
One of my best friends in recovery moved out of town (Cathy, you out there?). She never remembered blatant sexual abuse. She came to believe it was what is now called "Subtraumatic sexual abuse." Our group didn't measure the abuse, and welcomed her.
world.""To the world you might be one person, but to one person you might be the
Our Las Vegas ACOA Incest Survivor Healing Your Sexual Self Meeting was a tremendous part of my recovery. I was on a survivor chat line when a chatter said she was past the age of having a good sex life. I wrote, "I suspect you're not, how old are you?" She replied, "48." I am 45 years old in '98.
That inspired a new page regarding a survivor's sexual healing. Under construction as of 12/12/98.
Need an online support group? This is the one I belong to, e-mail for info.
I am editor of Open Directory Project - Society: Support Groups: Sexual Abuse. You'll find over 130 links here regarding info, forums, litigation, organizations, supporters of survivors, survivors, and therapists. Let me know of any more resources.
Awesome self-therapy link. Great psychological self-help online book.
Started collecting definitions of forgiveness.
This is what I can believe.
An excellent article about "What kind of therapist do you need?" and more words on the subject...
Or check out this piece from Think Like A Shrink, self-therapy.
What about the False Memory Syndrome?
I learned the hard way about dealing with difficult people. You can learn from these:
"Frustration is what you feel when you are in a power struggle and you are losing."
Which means, for me, that there is something I need to let go of - some part of my plan, my picture of how I think things should be that I need to surrender - so I can see and accept reality as it is and then make the best of it." Robert Burney (excellent recovery site)
Top 10 Ways to Safely Communicate in Relationship Conflict
The Top 10 Questions to Ask Yourself in Specific Situations
The Top 10 Steps to Becoming Personally Empowered
The Top 10 Steps to Create Emotional Safety in Relationships
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
--Joseph Campbell
