Creatively Release Your 
| My girlfriend used to write the
name of her perpetrator on the bottom of her shoes - these shoes were made for walking. She used to tear up little pieces of paper with her perpetrator's name on them, keep them in her purse, and drop some in the toilet every time she had to go to the bathroom. I performed Silent Scream in order to release my rage. I tore out the eyes and mouths from pictures of people I was enraged at. I tore up into little tiny pieces letters from someone I was enraged at (you might want to copy it first. I lost a very significant letter that way) I made a mantra of my rage and what I would do and screamed it over and over in a safe place until my voice could only whisper it. A recovery guideline: If you are in rage, 20% is about what is happening in the present and 80% is about the incest. Creatively release your rage to help you deal with the current 20%.
"Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm." "Every morning for the next week before you start your day, go to your bedroom, close the door, and pile all your pillows in the center at the head of the bed. Kneel on the bed with the pillows in front of you. Bow gently to your inner self and to the universe. Then start beating the living daylights out of the pillows. If you have any anger you've been carrying around, or if you even suspect that you might, this will be one of the most powerful and liberating things you can do." Simplify Your Life
"Your anger and hate can often My rage (warning: graphic) |
Victim I think I'm fine One of the over riding memories i have is helping someone to name a tree by the
name of their abuser. It was in the pitch black - in the middle of the woods and she beat
the living daylights out of it with a toilet brush ( it was the only thing we could find
at the time!) After that - she was so freed of her anger and pain. It occured to me what a
dreadful thing to do to a poor innocent tree, (trees are important to me - one particular
one hid me from more abuse) but i went back to it a few days later and hugged it and
thanked it on my friends behalf. And to this day i swear that the tree hugged me back,
reminding me how strong it was and how wonderful it was to let something else LIVE. |
| Checklist for Hidden Anger | Oprah interview conducted by Oprah Winfrey, The Oprah Winfrey Show, July 16, 1993. Andrew Vachss confronted Oprah about her lack of anger, what she meant by forgiveness, and for violating herself again by socializing with her perpetrator. Oprah came to understand what he meant. |
Have you ever read Women Who Run with the Wolves? It has a story about a
woman who loves a rageful man. She goes to a healer who tells the woman she must get a
hair from the crescent bear. The woman persists and suffers thru a terrible journey to get
the hair of the bear. She found the bear, then had to woo him for days with food and
kindness. Then she brings it back to the healer who throws the hair in the fire!
"NO!" cried the woman, "What have you done?!?" The healer said,
"Remember each step you took to climb the mountain? Remember each step you took to
capture the trust of the crescent moon bear? Remember what you saw, what you heard, and
what you felt?"
"Yes," said the woman, "I remember very well." The old healer smiled
at her gently and said, "...go home with your new understandings and proceed in the
same ways with your husband."
"The story reveals an entire model for dealing with, and healing from rage: by
seeking a wise and calm healing force (going to the healer), taking the challenge of going
into psychic territory one has never approached before (climbing the mountain),
recognizing the illusions (dealing with climbing the boulders, running under the trees),
putting one's old and obsessive thoughts and feelings to rest (meeting the muen-otoke,
restless spirits without relatives to bury them), soliciting the great compassionate Self
(patiently feeding the bear and the bear returning her kindness), understanding the
roaring side of the compassionate psyche (recognizing that the bear, the compassionate
Self, is not tame).
The story shows the importance of bringing this psychological knowledge down to earth in
our real lives (coming down off the mountain and back into the village), learning that
healing is in the process of questing and practice, not in a single idea (destruction of
the hair). The heart of the story is, "Apply all these things to one's rage, and all
will be well" (advice from the healer to go home and apply these principles."
this is about The Mean One inside. this is that little all red one. it not
cristofer. cristofer is blu. this one she gets mad at all of us. T say it be like we
carrying around the amblance lady inside because this be the anger inside and because we
not let it be we be letting the amblance lady live on in our insides just like befor time.
and until we let this one talk the amblance lady still has to much power. oh well, thanks
for listening. dc figure it only be rite to tell you some about her to. maybe this do
it... thank you. love dc
A good anger acted upon is beautiful as lightning and swift with power. A
good anger swallowed clots the blood like slime. --Marge Piercy
