03/29/2001 Ss has a weekend at bm's this weekend, he leaves for Robotics from CA
to FL Tue nt.
Bm called ss tonight and told him he must bring all his clothes to be
washed at her home, and must bring his medal. She's going to pack all
his clothes for Robotics at her home.
We told him all clothes must come back. We told him his medal must
come back - he'll need it at the competition.
*shaking my head* Fine. We pick our fights. This isn't worth trying
to block bm's demands.
Concerned Stepmom
03/31/2001
I have to admit I'm chuckling a little.
Bm called at 8:30am, when she's supposed to pick him up, to say she's
so sick ss can't come to her house.
She's never missed taking him before.
So her demand that he pack all of his clothes and bring his robotics
medal, that he wash all his clothes at her house, that she pack his
suitcase this weekend for his Tue nt trip to Robotics competition, have
all gone out the window and he's unpacking.
Ss told her he has a severe cold.
As usual, his cold is a stuffy nose, and a little cough, that usually
goes away with round the clock Sudafed, that bm and her parents say we
are terrible for giving to him.
I wonder what word he'll use when he really does have a severe cold.
Bm grilled ss over the phone while he was sitting next to me about everything going on in our house over the next couple
of weeks.
In particular about the Mexican exchange student arriving for 2 weeks.
If you remember, before dh won custody summer '99, bm told dh's
wonderfulexgirlfriend (who told us) that we were probably going to have
my 12 yo daughter have sex with her 11 yo son so he'd want to live with us.
So dh made a bad joke today, that bm is probably worried that we're
importing someone to have sex with ss.
Concerned Stepmom
04/07/2001
Stepson's team won 1st Nationally!!!
http://www.robotics.nasa.gov/first2001.html
Dh, nice guy that he is, called bm and her
parents to let them know. They didn't have the Nasa channel at her
home, can't get it on their computer. Bm then wanted to discuss
making up for the last weekend she was unable to pick him up. Gee, I
can't remember her giving dh regular visitation, let alone make up
visitation. But he was nice and brought up that ss's robotics
summer school class is 6 weeks, leaving her 4 weeks, and he wants to
talk about her making up that 5th week. Sounds like now that ss's team
won regionally and nationally, she's suddenly willing to cooperate.
I
would hope so. Scholarships are possible:
Then
ss called to tell us they won, and my normally stoic ss was crying in
excitement. Dh suggested he call his mom. Ss was reluctant, but I
think he did.
Our
family is going to make banners, signs, and cause a ruckus when we go
to pick up ss at airport tomorrow night. He'll be so embarrassed, but
secretly pleased. The rest of the team will love it.
Concerned Stepmom
04/08/2001
Wow. He is soooo ok with winning and the trip. He was beaming. He
keeps talking. He is relaxed and happy.
Before the win at the regional competition dh was talking to ss about
how exciting the day was at LA Convention Center. Ss loudly complained
that he doesn't like excitement.
He changed his tune after the win.
He surpassed my hopes for how well he seems to have tolerated
enjoying FL.
I think he could get used to success *grin*.
DD was telling ss she's going to summer robotics and joining. Ss
asked her, "What are you going to do?!?" Dd let him know in no
uncertain terms that she can't program but she likes to build things and
Bob ( an engineer sponsoring) encouraged her to join at Regionals.
Ss's been talking all the way home, and pointed out to dd that he
himself is also going to really participate this next year cuz he
promised everyone.
Concerned Stepmom
04/09/2001 I took stepkids to dentist office. They couldn't get
over how much more relaxed and happy ss is since they've been seeing him
since dh won custody summer '99. They didn't even see the difference in
him since before the FL trip, and now. He's relaxed and playful all day
long with his stepsisters and half sister.
Newspapers called several times today about the robotics national
championship. Ss was sleeping at first, we were out, dh talked to them,
then I gave another sd's and dh's name for the pic the newspaper took of
them at airport welcoming the team back with crazy hats on and a banner.
Bm called our home while we were out. She's usually extremely rude to
my girls, but they handle it well. This time she's sooooo verrry warm
and fuzzy - "Is (ss) there? Oh, are you going to dinner tonight to
celebrate? I'll call back later when I get a chance."
Yeh, now that he's won regional and national, all her efforts to
sabotage his participation didn't work, and she wants to share in ss's
success. Oh well - (Me practicing that important skill, Don't Sweat the
Small Stuff).
Concerned Stepmom
"She" can be one too!
When you look at the deadbeat sites, ask yourself if you're
behaving like a deadbeat, and remember that men are victims of "her"
deadbeat mentality also.
