1992 CA and NV talked. NV would have jurisdiction because I showed overwhelmingly that my ex was a resident of Vegas. My ex was told to drop the CA divorce action. Instead he pulled a dirty trick in CA court, not telling this judge about CA and NV already talking, lying to her while I wasn't present about my income, his income, telling her that I agreed to 2 years of $232 a month spousal support, and  got an order in CA. 

The CA attorney who promised me action for free did nothing for 6 months. I finally got the judge's fax # and e-mailed her my story. She investigated. What he did wasn't illegal, just unethical, because I had been notified of the court date. She was OJ Simpson's judge and I did feel heard by her and treated fairly.  $368 a month in child support had been assigned in CA, instead of the $580 a month NV assigned. I didn't have any money to get to CA and fight it. 

A year and a half later my new boyfriend lent me $2000 to get an attorney to get the CA action dropped. I learned that if I had been in CA court and left jurisdiction with them, I would have been receiving $1600 a month between spousal and child support, spousal for a 20 year marriage is lifetime, or until I remarried. Spousal of $420 a month in NV was for 3 years.  My ex had screwed himself to a certain extent by getting an order in CA.

I was making $14,000 a year (if the kids and I didn't get sick). My ex was making $42,000 a year. KK, his  girlfriend made $56,000 a year, owned the 4bdrm Laguna Hills home, and had no kids.  

There was a sub for the judge who knew about my case. The sub sternly told my attorney immediately, "You aren't getting anywhere with this counselor!" He wasn't about to decide on a case already decided by a previous judge.  My attorney felt so bad. I could see how much preparation he'd put into it - the file was almost a foot deep, filled with his post-it notes so he could find what he wanted. 

The time limit was then up for me to get CA to drop their order.