Cheryl

"Before my husband moved out I mixed a nice amount if Nair into his shampoo."

Anonymous

One time after one of the beatings I took from my ex, I found one of his "hidden" whiskey bottles, poured some of the whiskey out and added some "tinkle" shall we call it (more natural yellow then colored in the bottle, but leaving enough for his "taste buds") then had 1 hell of a GREAT laugh when he pulled it out and drank it. Me being the only 1 that knew what was in the bottle. He was on his way to being drunk before he grabbed the jug, but still
I KNEW......
After the Divorce and I was safely away from him, and he could no longer intimidate me I let him know what I had done, right down to telling him where his "secret" hiding place was.....
Needless to say he did not find it funny but I sure did.. Moral is, "SHE who laughs last laughs best"
Mary

03/10/2001 Ann Landers Column

"I have a solution for the woman whose ex-mother-in-law shows up with toys for her little granddaughter and then takes the toys back when she leaves. My ex-husband used this selfish , manipulative tactic on our 2-year-old. It upset me more than it did my son. The child got over his frustration in 15 minutes, but I was furious for the entire day.

My 5-year-old daughter solved the problem. She said, 'Mommy, just tell him those toys belong to Daddy and he wants to take them home to play with them when he leaves.' My son understood that concept, and since then, has never asked twice about the toys Daddy brings and takes away. It is easy for him to understand that these toys belong to someone else.

Now my ex-husband cannot use this as a way to get back at me. Nice? I thought so.

--Evening the Odds in New Jersey

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